Reflections on Out of My Mind by Sharon S. Draper: Scaffolding for Success

In one of the early chapters of Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper, Melody talks about her neighbor, Mrs. V., who was one of her caretakers. Mrs. V. as the person who first pushed Melody out of her comfort zone and built up many of her skills. She details one particular experience where Mrs. V. did what is known as scaffolding. The end goal of reaching her favorite toy was achieved through a series of much smaller steps, each one building on the previous one.

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Reflections on Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper: There’s more going on in there than you realize

As I made my way through the book Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper, I was reminded of one of my boys on the autism spectrum. I will call him Patrick.

Patrick is at what some might call the more severe end of the spectrum. For some semblance of privacy, I will not detail his characteristics, even though I have given him a pseudonym.

But a particular one is that he is nonverbal. He can make some utterances and sing some. But mostly, he relied on communication charts and devices.

The one summer, I was at his house a couple of days a week tutoring his younger brother, Paul, primarily in reading. He had been in my class the previous school year. I usually would not see Patrick unless I stayed late chatting with the boys’ mother, who was quickly becoming a friend. But every time I saw him, I would warmly greet him, even though I knew I wasn’t going to get much of a response.

Then one week, Patrick was home because he did not have summer school. Mom was keeping an eye on Patrick, ready to distract him if needed. He was quietly sitting on the sofa on the other side of the room, so his mom decided to slip down to the basement to change over the laundry. He kept an eye on what we were doing, so I kept including him in our conversation, even though I knew he would not respond.

All of a sudden, Patrick got up and came to sit at the table with us. I didn’t make a big deal out of it, just kept including him in the conversation as I continued to work with his brother.

Mom came back upstairs with a full basket of laundry. When she saw Patrick sitting at the table with us, she promptly dropped the basket on the floor. Later conversation revealed that he had never initiated contact or interaction in such a way before. I was honored.

The interactions led me to working with both boys. Paul and I continued mostly academic things. Patrick and I worked on communication in a way, some skills around the house, and just interacting.

I would often watch him as he interacted with me or was stimming in one of his many ways, often wondering what was happening inside that head. He had very definite opinions on people and things. And while some people would only see a vacant stare, I often saw wheels turning. He just didn’t know how to express what was going on up there.

Reading this book made me think of Patrick. Even if he didn’t have a photographic memory like Melody, I still feel like he has a great deal more intelligence in there than he is able to express. And I am grateful that he has parents and teachers who seem to understand this and work to meet him on his level.

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Reflections on Out of My Mind: My Summer Lesson of Respect

So I read this middle grade/YA book about an 11-year-old girl named Melody who has a severe case of cerebral palsy. She basically cannot physically move on her own. And she cannot speak. But she is very intelligent, with a photogenic memory. The problem is most people do not know this, so they talk down to her. It reminds me of two special needs people I had in my life.

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Reflections on Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper: My Kid With Cerebral Palsy

My friend’s daughter had the book Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper on her reading list. Out of curiosity, I borrowed it and was completely moved and immersed myself in memories. The story is told from the point of view of a girl named Melody who is an 11-year-old with severe cerebral palsy. She can barely move and cannot speak. Therefore, everyone assumes that she is profoundly mentally retarded, a word that she rightfully despises. So when she starts school, she is placed in a brightly colored room with a new teacher every year and a revolving door of assistants, where curriculum is often dumbed down.

It made me think of an experience I had during college. For one of my education classes, we had to spend time observing in classrooms. Because I took the Honors version, they decided we were going to visit alternative schools. I was already familiar with these programs because I had attended one of the Montessori schools and we did activities with one of the other alternative programs. Plus I was already employed at another Montessori school. So I was told that I could actually work with the kids instead of just observing.

My assignment? A young boy about seven years old who had CP. Why? “He needs a lot of extra help, and I just don’t have time for him.”


I sat down with this delightful young man at his table and we started chatting. He broke my heart when he said, “You know, I’m not dumb. It just takes me a little longer to do things.”

I was so angry with that teacher. How dare she make this child feel this way? I don’t know that she ever said anything directly to him. At least, I hope she never did. But that line, “Actions speak louder than words” definitely rang true for this young boy. And it was not okay.

I often think of him and wonder how he is doing ow. He would be in his early 30s. I hope that he found teachers who understood him and could work with him where he was at. I hope he never felt shamed because he was slower. The realistic part of me knows that is highly unlikely. But I like to think it happened.

I can still picture him in my head, though his name now escapes me. But his impact on me and my teaching remains. I never talked down to kids with impairments. I acknowledged that there was more going on in there than we realized. And it made me a better educator.

I hope you can do the same.

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Enter to @marksvilleandme National Geographic Easter Basket Prize #Giveaway Ends 3/30

Whether or not you celebrate Easter in your house, you’ll want to get your hands on these National Geographic books for your kids. They’re some of my favorites and were always a hit in my classroom! Check them out! And best of luck entering the giveaway.

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Reflections on Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper: An Introduction

I’m starting up a sort of Thoughtful Thursday series here, of reflections I had after reading a book that my friend’s daughter had to read over the summer.

The book Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper is the story of a young girl named Melody who has cerebral palsy. She basically cannot move and she cannot speak. So people just assume that she is profoundly  mentally retarded. In fact, the opposite is true. Her brain works quite well otherwise, including a photographic memory, and she possesses an intelligence that only she really knows she has.

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Thoughts on Changing Works in the Classroom

Seemi from Trillium Montessori has a webinar on changing work in the Montessori classroom that is currently free and available for a limited time. You can check it out here. Before I settle in to watch, I wanted to reflect on my previous experiences with this.

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Enter the @ClearlyFiltered Filtered Water Pitcher #Giveaway Ends 3/10 @las930

I have mentioned before how we often spoke in my Montessori training about the importance of drinking water. We also encourage it a lot in the children as well. Because we want to encourage them to pour their own water, we could add one of these filtered pitchers to the classroom (when regulations allow because of pandemic precautions). At the very least, you can have filtered water available for them, even if you’re the one who has to fill their water bottles. It’s just a thought!

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Website Wednesday: Living Montessori Now

When I had the original Montessori Writer website over 10 years ago, I created the Twitter account and Facebook page to go with it and ended up meeting a lot of wonderful people. We were all getting started online and loved sharing ideas. One of those people was Deb, the creator of Living Montessori Now. She’s going to be my first featured website on my Website Wednesdays.

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Remembering Jo and Her Montessori Math Legacy

A couple of weeks ago, I was already having a rough day, not feeling well and extremely tired. As I scrolled through my Facebook feed, I saw a notice posted in my childhood Montessori group that my former teacher, Jo, had passed away.

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